And as time went on, Adam Yauch in particular became like a wise older brother. He led the Free Tibet charge. On Sure Shot, when MCA offers that “I want to say a little something that’s long overdue / the disrespect to women has got to be through / to all the mothers and the sisters and the wives and friends / I want to offer my love and respect to the end” it was a profound re-assessment of the way women were approached in hip hop and pop music in general. And it was nowhere more true than in his own past. It was complicated and messy, like life. And it helped me approach my own complicated, messy relationship with women.